A while ago, a good friend of mine and I were hanging out in his driveway shooting the breeze when a man approached us on foot. He had very casual clothes, a gold tooth, rags and cleaning supplies. He strikes up a conversation with us, cracking jokes and overall just trying to connect with “the guys”. Then out of the blue, he sprays the driveway with some “magic” cleaner and wipes it with his rag—the result is a pristine white spot surrounded by the dark-grey driveway. He sprays the car tire, wipes it. My friend starts to protest. The last thing he wants is little clean spots sprinkled around his property. We, though laughing with our new friend from Florida, make it obvious that we are not interested in his product. Our friendly salesman then sprays his shoe and a window before we shake him and go into the house. Wow! Was he persistent!!…and incredibly disrespectful.

Fast forward. Our doorbell rings. I open the door. Oh no…they are back. I quickly tell him that I have seen his product and am seriously not interested. He says that was his competitor and his product is better. He cracks some jokes, tries to connect with me and sprays my window. Within a few minutes I manage to talk him down and he leaves.

Here is the thing. If a good friend of mine, or someone I had a relationship with, recommended the same exact cleaning product to me—heck, even gave me a demo—I would probably be using the product today. But when a complete stranger comes to my door, I don’t care what they are pushing, I am not interested. Why? It’s not the product; it’s the lack of relationship and trust.

Fast forward to last night—Valentine’s Day. Our doorbell rings. Oh no…they are back. Jen opens the door and I am sitting on the couch. I hear a man, who peaked through our window and saw our ultrasound pictures on the table, comment about the ultrasound pictures and Jen’s pregnancy. He begins to crack some jokes and try to connect with Jen. I hear him ask if she knew where the baby came from. (Huh?). And Jen tells them time and time again that this is not a good time, she is preparing dinner and its Valentine’s Day. Another man joins in and begins talking about Jesus. Again, Jen says it is not a good time. He hands her a handout and they leave. Same approach, different product. Same lack of respect, same end-game, same result—please leave, we are not interested.

Relationship is everything!! And I am talking REAL relationship. But before we judge our gold-tooth-cleaning-guy or LDS friends, how often have we been guilty of pushing Jesus without relationship? How many tracks? How many 5-steps, lines and canned approaches have we used? How many times have we tried to “connect” in an obviously false way in order to win them over? Sure, we may not go door-to-door, but that is not the issue……the lack of true and authentic relationship is. Without it, we are just another gold-tooth-cleaner-guy trying to push our product.

May we seek and build relationships with those who need to hear Christ’s love and forgiveness. It takes a lot of time and hard work, but in the end, if nothing else, you, I, and they get a real friend and a chance to be restored through Christ—together.

For more about relationships and “evangelism”, I highly recommend the book More Ready than You Realize.

Alchemy, in part, entails physical experiments involving destroying the subject, extracting its essence and re-forging it as something stronger, more whole.

What would postmodern church-alchemists look like? Church structural experimenters who break down the institutional church, extracting its essence and re-forging it for our time as something stronger, purer, more whole.

Hmmm. Looks like I just self-inherited another label.

Any other Church-Alchemists out there?

This past Sunday, the church who we gather with verbally opened the communion table for some all to partake, for some all to experience the love and acceptance of Jesus through the elements—at his table, sharing his meal.

So I, too, dined. (click if you don’t know the back-story…)

It was refreshing.

So Tracy (who is deathly grossed-out by men in Speedos) and I had this little wager going on: If she posted a photo of her and her husband Rich, I would tell this story. She did. So here is the promised story:

11 years ago when Jennifer and I were dating/engaged, we took a drive up highway 1 (which is the famous coastal drive in CA), just north of San Francisco. It was very romantic. We stopped at a beautiful lighthouse and began walking up the coast. As we walked hand-in-hand, we reached the end of the sharp cliffs of the coast. No where to go, we sat down with our feet dangling. Below us was a peaceful beach with a few dozen people enjoying the sun. As we talked, we began noticing that everyone below us was wearing white bathing suits—the guys in Speedos, the girls in string bikinis. Our conversation halted as both of us gazed more intently at those below us. Suddenly, much like the San Francisco fog lifting, the light dawned on us. ACKKK!!! Those aren’t Speedos!! A bunch of—how shall I put this—slightly pudgy buck-naked sun lovers, complete with all the fixin’s. “Ummm…[clear my throat]…shall we go back to the car, my dear?”

I’m not sure who’s eyes were more scarred that afternoon, mine or Jen’s. But given what we saw, I’ll take a middle-aged man wearing speedos ANY DAY!!

Jesus said that we’d be known as his followers by our love (John 13). He also prayed that his followers would be united in love so that the world would see that God loves them as he loves his son, Jesus (John 17). I knew this about Jesus’ words, but as I was reading through Philippians—particularly the second chapter (which I’ve read 100 times over in the past)—Paul’s words jumped off the page. He talks about unity in Christ, comfort from his love, tenderness, compassion, being of the same mind, and then says this: “…Having the same love…”.

He then goes on to explain what this like-minded love looks like, and points to Jesus. That love should be the unifying factor. That self-sacrificing love helps us to be one in spirit and mind. That our like-mindedness is found in the humble, serving and loving mind of Jesus. Not only does love define us—label us, as it were—as a follower of Jesus, but love also unites us. And when the world looks on, witnessing and experiencing our love, they will know they are loved as children of their heavenly daddy.

Like-mindedness (a.k.a. unity) is found in love, expressed through humility.

So let’s take a quick test.

1) What defines us as followers of Jesus? Love.
2) What unites us as followers of Jesus? Love.
3) What draws others into following Jesus? Love.

You mean, the answers to the above isn’t “correct” doctrine? Or ___________ (you fill in the blank)? Or . . .

Perhaps (and I am using “perhaps” very facetiously) love is the greatest of these things.

May we be known and united by our love.

An Exquisite Mess Whom Daddy Loves

I was tagged by Glenn to participate in the Six Word Memoir meme. Here’s how it works:

1. Write your own memoir using only six words; 2. Post it on your blog; 3. Link to the person that tagged you; 4. Tag five more blog friends.

So I tag…

Jonathan

Tracy

Matty

Chad

Kathy

Caleb (7) is our early-riser. Just about every morning he is up before us and this morning was no exception. He woke up, sneaked into our room and left this hand-written card on Jen’s pillow for her to wake up to. Here is what he wrote:

Dere Mom

I hope you hav a hapy Muthrsday.

Hapy Muthrsday!

To you Mom.

From Caleb yoor sun.

These are the days to remember and cherish. Too cute!

OK. So Mother’s Day has arrived once more and I am torn between these two videos to send. Which one would you send to your mom?

Happy Mother’s day, mom! I love you!

 

As I get older, I learn there is a natural rhythm to life where friendships come and go.  I have also learned to embrace this rhythm, not fight it.  Different seasons of life form and emerge, bringing with them the surprise and gift of new friendships.  It is like taking a road trip to a place you’ve never been, where everything is alive with newness and wonder.  That is what a new friendship is like.  Some of you reading this I consider such friends and count it a blessing to know you.  You have graced my life with your presence, your words and your laughter.  I trust the feeling is mutual.  Please hear me when I say “Thank You!”

 

One surprising friendship that has emerged is that of a seasoned writer, Laura Jensen Walker.  She works alongside me, currently writing web content for her “day job”.  She has been writing professionally for over 12 years and currently has 15 books published.  Her newest book, Daring Chloe, is scheduled to be released nationwide the end of May.  Laura is full of life and it has been a joy getting to know her. 

 

Can you do me a favor from one friend to another?  Pay her a visit, and, if you’d like, read one of her books.  She writes bothe fiction and non-fictionSome of her favorites are Thanks for the Mammograma non-fiction recount of personal struggle with breast cancer, Miss Invisible—a fictional book about an overweight women who felt “invisible” to the world due to her size (an interesting side note, a 14-year-old deaf girl recently wrote a fan letter saying that she feels “invisible” due to her hearing impairment), and Reconstructing Natalie—a story of a young single girl who develops breast cancer and how her cancer “reconstructed” her life.

 

Here are some of her covers (click to enlarge):

 

   

“A theology of brokenness embraces our spiritual poverty, our questions, our doubts, our desire for love, hope and redemption, and reminds us that the stink and the beauty are all wrapped up into one.”

~Kathy Escobar~

Jonathan said, “And even when we share the Gospel story, we’re left with the real question. If this person says, “No,” for whatever reason, will we still choose to love them? Will we still share the Gospel with them? Will we still be love, which is the fullest reflection of Jesus and the call to mission? Or, will will simply treat the person as a transaction that is defined by our duty to get them into heaven? Because real evangelism happens after they say no.

But what if we had the foreknowledge that not only would they say no, but that they would NEVER say YES? Would we still love them? Perhaps more important, would we still remain in relationship with them? Be their friend? Stick by them? Or would we abandon them for a more “successful” project?

Or in other words, would love be motive enough?

Perhaps real evangelism stems from the place of no expectation.

Not too long ago a group of four of us drove to San Francisco to catch Rob Bell’s The Gods Aren’t Angry tour. It was . . . well let’s put it this way, being the internal processing introvert that I am, I didn’t speak much during the 2 hours following his message. It absolutely riveted me. My mind was reeling. Here is a small video snapshot:

You can order the entire DVD, but if you have friends like Jonathan (wink, wink, nudge, nudge) you can just borrow their copy ;-)

Jen and I have been married for 10 years, this June. So when I was asked to synchroblog about keeping it real and the latest chapter of our story, I thought I’d do just that. So here is chapter 10 of our ongoing story:

Our last anniversary was spent camping on the banks of the American River just outside of Coloma, CA. Just before leaving, we were informed by the church where I was Youth Minister that, due to budget restraints, my position was being cut and they were going to have to let us go. That put a slight damper on our camping trip and 9 year anniversary.

We finished out our commitment at the church in July. As we left, their generosity and grace was abundant. Not only did they love us and cry with us, but they offered severance pay that would provide for us until December 1st. We stepped away knowing we were loved and would be missed.

Almost immediately we began applying and interviewing with churches. We had a certain “box” in mind that we felt God wanted us in and so we pursued it. One church showed real interest in us as their small group pastor. We went through the 1st, 2nd, 3rd interview and the door closed. Another church showed real interest in us as their senior pastor. We went through the initial interviews and a weekend extravaganza of meetings and the door closed.

Perplexed, we did some real soul searching. What we noticed was that God was building some great friendships in Folsom (where we live) and sensed that God was asking us to stay put—to trust. But God, there is nothing here. What are we going to do for income? He simply said, Trust. So we stayed and continued developing our friendships and trusted.

But he also convicted me in a very gentle manner. You see, for the past six years God has been doing some real soul shaping in me. He was guiding me and leading me in some new directions (new for me at least) but I kept his leading and re-shaping rather hidden from others. I was afraid what people might think and what their reactions might be. I was like the guy who was given some money by his master and all he did was bury and hide his master’s gift. That was me. God had been doing something in me, but I simply buried it. I cared more about what others would think than about what God thought. In fact, I had been blogging for some time about these changes, but I did so in “private mode” (not available for public viewing). God simply asked me if I was willing to trust him and lean fully into what he was doing in my heart. ‘Cause I realized that no matter what I believed, there were going to be those who agreed and those who didn’t, those who thought I was right and those who thought I was wrong. So the real question became, Am I being faithful to God—where he was leading me and how he was shaping me? Realizing my answer was “no”, I said, “Yes…I will.” As an act of that commitment, I took my blog off “private” and went “public” with my thoughts. That was in October. Some think that was a good thing. Others think it was a bad thing. For me, it was the right and healing thing. Oh, and I almost forgot, Jen got pregnant with #3, girl #2.

Shortly afterwards I got a “regular” 3-month contract job. In the mean time, God began gathering a group of like-minded people who were asking similar questions and feeling similar longings. God began cultivating the dream about a different type of Christian community that he had been individually forming in our hearts for years . We found ourselves colliding with each other on the same road, emerging from different paths. We found friendship and camaraderie. As we dreamed together, God began bringing others to travel with us—all from different backgrounds, with different gifts, longing for the same type of community.

Then my three-month contract job ended.

Trust, he said. We did and he proved faithful. This has been, circumstantially speaking, one of the most difficult chapters in 10 years. But it has also been the most rich, fruitful, freeing, faith-building, soul-shaping, character-building, love-experiencing, friendship-full thrill rides with God we have ever been on. Our marriage is the strongest it has ever been. Our joy is the deepest we’ve known. Our peace passes understanding. We find ourself more patient and loving with those around us. We are more in love with and in awe of God than EVER before. Jesus has never meant more to us. We have deep friendships. God is using us as regular run-of-the-mill human beings. We have been healed from some junk and freed from some baggage. And I got another job.

The dream that he is birthing around us is simply awe inspiring. He has brought about 7 leaders to help dream the dream together. But it feels more like we are just trying to pay attention to what he is doing and wanting to join along. What will it look like? We have an idea, but we are dreaming as we build. When will the dream begin to be fleshed out? It has been for the past 30+ years, has led us to this place today, and will continue to unfold in the future. And the dream-scent we are smelling is phenomenal. May his kingdom come…

So this June, Jen and I celebrate 10 years of marriage. We are celebrating in Napa, CA, for a weekend bed-and-breakfast get away. We thought, “Let’s celebrate what God has done!” And celebrate we will!! I’ll leave the rest to your imagination…

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Others Synchroblogging This Topic:

Mike with “Lost or Found (Depends on your view)
Erin with “My Turn
Lyn with “Your Turn
Sarah with “Glenn’s May Synchroblog
Jane with “Part 1“, “Part 2“, “Part 3“, & “Part 4
Alan with “You Are Here
Barb with “One Year Checkup
Kathy with “It stinks down here, but I really love the smell
Heidi with “May Synchroblog

So my daughter, Ashlyn, thought it would be fun to paint a pretty picture on our sliding glass door with her raspberry sherbet ice cream cone. Our Golden Retriever dog, Cheddar, thought it would be fun to use her “art” to broaden his rather limited culinary experience. I won’t tell you what my daughter does with her ice cream after smothering it in Dog saliva and sliding glass door grime. You’ll have to watch the video for that…

The more I surrender myself to God’s love and seek to uphold people’s dignity, the more I find myself biting my tongue. And when it gets too painful and I give into the urge not to bite it, letting it run free, I often regret it and people often get hurt—their dignity bruised, if not crushed.

So, despite my personal tongue-pain, I am learning the hard lesson that when I am tempted to lash out, whether written or verbalized, it is best to turn the other cheek and bite my tongue.

But tongue sandwiches are becoming too common a meal. Sometimes—no, often times—it feels better to make others feel the pain of my words.

Ugh.

I thank God that grace is the rule of the journey.

Chad got me thinking (dangerous, I know).

When Jesus says to love our enemies, who does he mean? Even “enemies” like Bin Laden? Or just our private, personal enemies?

If we saw Bin Laden on the street and had the power to take his life, should we? If not, what should the proper response of a follower of Jesus and his way be?

If we are called to love even the “Bin Ladens” of our world, what does that look like? What does it really mean to LOVE our enemies? What actions? What words? Who are some examples of people throughout history, or even in your personal circle, that demonstrated love for their enemies in real and tangible ways? Does love also entail forgiveness?

If we can’t love enemies like Bin Laden, then who can we love? Really?

…I am posting this song, but I’ve always been a closet Neil Diamond fan (back off, you like him too) and when I saw him sing this song live, it resonated with me, though I am not sure why…

“I Am,” I Said

L.A.’s fine, the sun shines most the time
And the feeling is ‘lay back’
Palm trees grow, and rents are low
But you know I keep thinkin’ about
Making my way back

Well I’m New York City born and raised
But nowadays, I’m lost between two shores
L.A.’s fine, but it ain’t home
New York’s home, but it ain’t mine no more

“I am,” I said
To no one there
And no one heard at all
Not even the chair
“I am,” I cried
“I am,” said I
And I am lost, and I can’t even say why
Leavin’ me lonely still

Did you ever read about a frog who dreamed of bein’ a king
And then became one
Well except for the names and a few other changes
If you talk about me, the story’s the same one

But I got an emptiness deep inside
And I’ve tried, but it won’t let me go
And I’m not a man who likes to swear
But I never cared for the sound of being alone

“I am,” I said
To no one there
And no one heard at all
Not even the chair
“I am,” I cried
“I am,” said I
And I am lost, and I can’t even say why
Leavin’ me lonely still

Instead of asking God to cultivate something, may I see, hear and be in-tune to what God is already cultivating around me. May I have the courage to trust and join God’s cultivation regardless how unknown, mysterious, distant or “in-the-dark” it may presently seem.

May I strive less to do for the sake of doing, and instead, pause more to listen in order to become aware of what he is doing.

God is cultivating all around me. Am I noticing? Do I care?

The following was written by a friend of mine, Chad. He graciously emailed me a copy of a short essay he wrote. I was floored by its message, and the garden-church imagery regarding racial reconciliation and church unity was nothing short of profound. It is worth the read:

If you drive thirty miles north on interstate 85 out of Durham you will come to a small, quaint town known as Oxford. “Small and quaint” is synonymous with the town’s distinction of not having a Super Wal-Mart but humbly displays the older, smaller version. Leaving Oxford on highway 15 heading north you will pass many farms, mostly tobacco, and cozy little townships who’s only boast is a gas station with the best short order cooks in the county that will make you a mean cheeseburger while you fill your tank. If you keep heading north until you would bet your life you are either in Virginia or at the very least mapping new frontier you will find a cozy, white, country church that would make Norman Rockwell sigh. The church is called Marrow’s Chapel United Methodist Church and I am her pastor.

If you were to visit Marrow’s Chapel on a Sunday morning there are two things that might immediately stand out to you. First, you might be surprised by the number of people who gather in the middle of nowhere to worship God. On any given Sunday there may be as few as 80 and as many as 120 packed into this little country church. Furthermore, you would see that a large number of them are young families with children, causing us to revamp our nursery and children’s areas to make enough room for everyone. The second thing that might stand out to you is that 100% of the families you see are white. This may not be so surprising given the area in which we live. Four miles down the road is the black church – same denomination, same white, cozy, country exterior – and every bit as segregated as ours.

Since I have begun serving here at Marrow’s Chapel I have slowly, subversively if you will, been trying to help the good people here cast a new vision for themselves as a church, one that more accurately captures the rich tapestry that is the Kingdom of God. In short, I envision a church where “all nations” come together to worship the one true God who is still in the business of reconciling and restoring his children. Through opening my eyes to the function of land in the Old Testament, [I have received] what I think are the necessary tools, or, more importantly, a biblical and practical model to work from that will help bring this vision to a reality. It will require some hard work and some sweat but by getting back to some long forgotten or ignored basics I think we will see healing not only in our relationships but in the land this rural church calls home.

To get back to the beginning I look to the biblical account of our origins where we first get a glimpse into our purpose on God’s good earth. Genesis 2:15 sees man’s God- given duty and essential task to be in the garden to “till and keep” the land. Both Norman Wirzba and Ellen Davis note how the verbs to “till” and “keep” are best rendered as “serving” and “preserving” and “observing.” This is significant if for no other reason than to remind us that the land is not ours to “till” for mere gain but we are to work it out of service to the land, not for ourselves. Noticing that it is not good for the man to be alone in his service to the land, God fashions another for him, a woman. There is much said today about how woman was formed from man and similarities between the two are often emphasized, and for good reasons. However, it should not be missed that while the fellow care-taker of the land is similar to Adam the new member of the garden is not the same as Adam. Why didn’t God just duplicate what God had already done and make another Adam? Would that not have provided some companionship as well as adequate help in the preserving of the land? It would if the God we serve is primarily utilitarian in nature. However, if we learn nothing else from this story it may be simply stated that in the garden we have been placed to serve, God likes variety.

Sitting in a restaurant with a group of church members just the other day I shared with them that in order for Marrow’s Chapel to become the church everyone hopes it to become (i.e. a growing, vibrant church and a full-time charge) it will need to be open to every and all persons within our community. One parishioner asked, innocently and honestly, where all the different races of people came from if all of us came from the same parents, Adam and Eve? Deciding that Chick-Fil-A was not the place to launch into a discussion on human origins and the mythic quality of Genesis, I offered to her the above truth that God is a lover of variety. When God made trees why didn’t he make just one kind? Why not fill the world with only daffodils? Why must there be so many types of fish? The answer proved helpful and even excited this small group to consider that the variety which God loves is sorely lacking in the pews of our church.

This love of variety is not limited to Genesis but found throughout scripture. One reading I found helpful in formulating this line of thought was William Brown’s The Ethos of the Cosmos. Brown draws some wonderful insights from Isaiah 41:17-20 pertaining to the taxonomy of community or the way in which God will revive and restore the land and people. God will do this by putting in the wilderness the “cedar, the acacia, the myrtle, and the olive” and setting in the desert the “cypress, the plane and the pine together” (Isa. 41:19). Brown observes that these 7 species of trees from different parts of the world with various climate needs brings forth a “forest of remarkable biodiversity. Yahweh intends to plant seven distinguishable varieties of trees, all coexisting in the transformed wasteland.” The diversity of trees, however, are but a prelude to what God desires to do amongst his people. The compiler of third Isaiah picks up on this vision in 56:1-8 and expresses Yahweh’s intended goal. The foreigner and eunuch will not be allowed to say, “I am just a dry tree” (Isa. 56:3) but they shall all be joined to the Lord and to the Lord’s peoples and the house of the Lord shall be called a “house of prayer for all peoples” (56:7) for it is the Lord who gathers not only the outcasts of Israel but “will gather others to them besides those already gathered” (56:8). It is this reconstitution, this diversity among the peoples, which will “make them joyful in my house of prayer” (56:7). Brown concludes, “The biodiversity of the garden reflects the ethnic diversity of the community.”

Initially I intended to write a sermon as part of this essay, one that would capture what I have learned and how I wish to convey it to my congregation. However, I find (and I doubt I am alone on this) that sermons without some robust biblical theology and practical relevance backing them are impotent. Thus, demonstrating the theology and the practicality from where the sermon will spring I believe is far more instructive. Having shown the biblical foundation for my sermon above, I will now briefly detail the practical dimension.

I was very inspired hearing the story of Anatoth Community Garden. What I saw as I watched this church begin to take seriously their service to the land and how they can teach people to be connected to creation in ways they had not considered before was inspiring. I saw people of all races coming together to sweat side by side, working for a common goal and being reminded that all of this is God’s, and therefore so are each of them. I began to imagine what such a garden in my own community might look like and how it might bring people together who otherwise do not inter-mingle and how it could begin to sow seeds of reconciliation and eventually the reconstitution of God’s people in the church. In other words, I began to wonder if a Garden might sprout a Church.

It was a Garden in Genesis that was the seed bed for God’s people, the beginning of what would become a church. It was Isaiah who linked together the diversity of the garden, particularly trees, and wished to reconstitute community in the same way. And not insignificant, it was in a garden that the resurrected Christ was first seen (John 19:41).

Since hearing the story of Anatoth Community Garden I have begun planning a similar endeavor for us at Marrow’s Chapel. I am convinced that in order for Marrow’s Chapel to become the vibrant, growing church it desires to be and in order for it to properly reflect the Kingdom of God through a diversity of people living in community it will have its genesis in a garden.

The sermon I wish to preach cannot yet be written because we have not yet begun the work of tilling and keeping the land. It is not until the good people of this community can sweat together side by side; seeing with their own eyes that the work of their hands produced such a variety of life in one field – it is then that a sermon exhorting God’s people to reconstitute itself based on the same diversity will find its mark. It is my prayer that out of a garden will spring a church, a house of prayer for all peoples.

Thanks for the blessing, Chad!

This is a shout out to my good buddy Dave who reminded me of this song today. My wife and I used to listen to it all the time but it has sat idle in the “non-played” cellar of my iPod. So I cranked it up again today on my way home from work and the words resonated with me, especially the line “But the places that used to fit me cannot hold the things I’ve learned.” What resonates with you?

Painting Pictures Of Egypt by Sara Groves

I don’t want to leave here
I don’t want to stay
It feels like pinching to me either way
The places I long for the most
Are the places where I’ve been
They are calling after me like a long lost friend

It’s not about losing faith
It’s not about trust
It’s all about comfortable
When you move so much
The place I was wasn’t perfect
But I had found a way to live
It wasn’t milk or honey
But then neither is this

CHORUS:
I’ve been painting pictures of Egypt
Leaving out what it lacked
The future seems so hard
And I want to go back
But the places that used to fit me
Cannot hold the things I”ve learned
And those roads closed off to me
While my back was turned

The past is so tangible
I know it by heart
Familiar things are never easy to discard
I was dying for some freedom
But now I hesitate to go
Caught between the promise
And the things I know

BRIDGE:
If it comes too quick
I may not recognize it
Is that the reason behind all this time and sand?
If it comes too quick
I may not appreciate it
Is that the reason behind all this time and sand?

I am often asked, by other Christians, “What church do you go to?” or “Where do you go to church?” This is, with regularity, followed by them saying, “Oh, I go to such-and-such church.” Another common question I get asked usually refers to the quality of the church I just went to, “How was church today?” which often is asking about the preaching, music, etc. Though these are well meaning questions, I think they point a bigger issue that plagues us today.

The bigger issue is one of “mistaken identity”. We see the church as a place we go versus a people who live in the way of Jesus. It is so prevalent that even people who do not go to church know “church” as a place, rather than a people who follow Jesus. But Paul knew better.Paul’s addresses many of his letters (Corinthians, Thessalonians, Ephesians, Revelation) to “the church in…” and names a city or providence. It is to a singular church, not plural churches (though there were many separate gatherings), that he writes to. Imagine Paul writing one letter to the all the various, individual churches in Sacramento and beginning his letter, “To the church in Sacramento”, and you get the picture. Paul used this language because he viewed God’s church as—not a place or a building—a people.

Now, I know we all agree to this in theory or theology, but seldom do we acknowledge it in our Sunday-to-Sunday language or practice. I cannot tell you the number of times that it has been insinuated or I have been directly told that “so-and-so church is better than so-and-so church”, or that “our church is in competition with so-and-so church”, or, “did you hear what happened to so-and-so church?” In Paul’s eyes, the church was in an interdependent relationship with one another as a people of God who followed and claimed the radical name of Jesus. Today, we independently operate separate church buildings and congregations, seldom uniting with or caring what happens to each other. In fact, sometimes we secretly (or not so secretly) applaud the sufferings, losses and mistakes of other congregations. This is because we really do not see them as “the church”––as brothers and sisters, as equals–– but as the other church, as the competition, or even as enemies if their beliefs differ from ours (those Baptists, Charismatics, Catholics).

It seems silly to imagine this self-destructive thinking in Paul’s day considering that the churches met in homes. The church, or the people of Jesus, met in small home gatherings located all through out the Roman Empire (though in Jerusalem they also went to the temple). Though separate, they viewed themselves as and acted like they were one body. I find great encouragement when large, diverse groups of Christians gather by the thousands in large auditoriums to worship and learn together. To me, it is a small slice of heaven. We all agree and act like we are ONE when we gather in such settings. But then something happens that saddens me. We get back to our “Churches” and resume business as usual: independent churches who could care less about each other—especially if the other church belongs to a different denomination. Jesus said that a house that is divided against itself cannot stand. Perhaps this is, in part, what we are seeing today: a divided house that is falling down.

May we reclaim our identity as THE CHURCH. May we stop nodding knowingly about this fact and start behaving how we claim to believe. May we not see ourselves as people who go to a church, but as a people who are the Church of Jesus wherever we go and whatever we do. May we be the church whether we meet in a multimillion-dollar building, or an ancient cathedral, or a living room, or a bar, or a coffee shop, or a park. May we stop competing against, abusing, slandering and destroying the other parts of Jesus’ body just because they are different then we are and because they believe differently then we do. May Jesus be our common head and may we stand in unity.

Who can say to a branch, “I don’t need you” or to a leaf, “Get lost”.

I hope a time will come when we can embrace our complete family tree and heritage. Where we can unite around Jesus and friendship, not on cognitive and doctrinal agreement (we’ve all seen where trying to has gotten us). Where we can see our messy differences as a beautiful tapestry, not as something to be fixed and cleaned up—or worst, burned. That each branch is part of a larger tree, not the tree itself. That we all hold truth and heresy. That we are all brothers and sisters, loved and forgiven by God.

For this, I hope. For this, I dream. For this, I long. For this, Jesus longed. For this, Jesus prayed:

“My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.

Perhaps it will be our unity that proclaims the gospel that God loves the world as he loves Jesus (wow…so he has the same love for all of us as he does for Jesus?). Perhaps it is not our “correct doctrine” that will draw others to God, but our unity. Perhaps it is when we are reconciled to each other that others will begin to be reconciled to God. Perhaps as our family tree is restored, others will begin to be restored.

But you know what that means. We need to humble ourselves to listen to, converse with, and love each other.

May it begin with me.

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“Only when the last tree has died, and the last river been poisoned, and the last fish has been caught, will we realize that we cannot eat money.”

~Cree Saying